Today,
asking «how many times must I forgive the offenses of my
brother or sister?» (Mt 18:21), may mean: —These
persons I love so much also have their little ways and whims that
bother me; day after day, they pester me every five minutes; they do
not speak to me... Lord, how long am I supposed to put up with them?
And
Jesus answers with the lesson of the patience. Actually, both
colleagues coincide when they say: «have patience» (Mt
18:26-29). But, while the intemperance of the wicked one, strangling
his companion for a few silver coins, provokes his moral and economic
ruin, the king's patience, while saving the debtor, his family and
his goods, magnifies the monarch's personality and generates the
confidence of his court. The king's reaction in Jesus' words reminds
us the Psalm that goes: «But you are willing to forgive, so
that you might be honored» (Ps 130:4).
Evidently, we have to
oppose to injustice, and energetically, if at all necessary,
(otherwise, it would be a sign of apathy or cowardice). But
indignation is healthy only when there is no selfishness, nor wrath,
nor any nonsense, but our straight desire to fight for the truth. The
authentic patience brings us to put up mercifully with contradiction,
weakness, inconveniences, unreasonable persons or events. To be
patient is tantamount to dominate oneself. Susceptible or violent
persons cannot be patient because they neither take their time
reflect about anything nor can they dominate themselves.
Patience
is a Christian virtue because is a part of the message from the
Kingdom of Heaven, and it is forged on the experience we all have
defects. If Paul exhorts us to put on a heart of patience with one
another (cf. Col 3:12-13), Peter reminds us that the Lord's
patience offers us the chance of salvation (cf. 2Pet 3:15).
For, how many times has
God's patience forgiven us in the confessionary? Seven times? Seventy
seven times, seven? Maybe more!